tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post6238226164495706750..comments2023-06-16T09:13:46.330-05:00Comments on gabbygeezer: You Called Me, What?Dick Kladehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11793395712483278104noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-70531255471928940942014-07-18T16:56:20.743-05:002014-07-18T16:56:20.743-05:00I often call people much younger than I "Sir&...I often call people much younger than I "Sir" or "Ma'am." Sometimes they are surprised, but not often. I think respect should cross age lines.Dick Kladehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11793395712483278104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-64548855757053563832014-07-11T18:38:09.439-05:002014-07-11T18:38:09.439-05:00Having spent most of my life in Oklahoma City, I&#...Having spent most of my life in Oklahoma City, I'm quite used to hearing "hon" and "honey" from waitresses. That's pure southern hospitality. And country, too. And that's the way I usually interpret it. (Admittedly if I were male, I might not hear it the same way.) <br /><br />Off hand I don't recall a time when I was addressed in such a way that I took offense or interpreted it as a form of ageism. Maybe I'm just oblivious. Or naive. Or both. But yes, I was raised to use "sir" and "ma'am," to such an extent that I still slip into it when addressing authority figures.PiedTypehttp://piedtype.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-36371900799136149022014-07-11T15:05:57.782-05:002014-07-11T15:05:57.782-05:00I think there are some regional, and perhaps organ...I think there are some regional, and perhaps organizational,aspects to this. My experience in the south is limited, but if it is common to call all sorts of folks "honey," then it wouldn't bother me at all.<br /><br />It was common in the West among U.S. Forest Service men to greet each other with "Hi, young man" or "Hello, young fella." The older men never were offended when greeted that way.<br /><br />Seems here, as in many places, there can be "different strokes for different folks."<br /><br />In the U.S. military, "The Old Man" commonly is the commanding officer, and subordinates certainly were not trying to offend the boss with that title!<br /><br /> Dick Kladehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11793395712483278104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-40005177093078794032014-07-11T12:02:04.846-05:002014-07-11T12:02:04.846-05:00When I was younger I obviously gave such things li...When I was younger I obviously gave such things little thought although I was taught to respect my elders and I did so diligently my entire life. But it wasn't until I had retired some ten years ago that I became acutely aware of some egg shells that I myself had been apparently walking upon.<br /><br />Tom has already mentioned the term "young man" and its associate term, "young lady", is the term that originally dropped this discussion on my doorstep.<br /><br />I’m not an authority on the subject but addressing an older person with “young man/young lady” in the southern part of the United States has always been considered “term of endearment” in my opinion. Although I do have to say that I have just assumed that stance based on having heard the term used often in various social situations. After retiring and taking up blogging as a past time I got a rude awakening with regard to the term. I initially reacted quite angrily and attributed the complaints directed at the term to ‘political correctness having run amuck but I really don’t have a clue. I still don’t seem to recognize the perceived offensiveness of its use but nevertheless after hearing the rants I have been privileged to have heard regarding its use on certain blogs, I now avoid the term like the “n-word” and I say that in all seriousness. Perhaps someday it will finally register…<br /><br />But… on the other hand like you Dick, I find being addressed with a “honey, dearie or darling” extremely aggravating at my age. It just seems so condescending to me, not to mention outwardly and blatantly disrespectful. If men or women feel that same way when being addressed with ‘young man/young lady’ I sincerely apologize for all my past transgressions.<br />Alan Ghttp://www.somefinalthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-23967629816496447972014-07-11T11:55:24.022-05:002014-07-11T11:55:24.022-05:00Welcome to old age. Mostly, it's female servi...Welcome to old age. Mostly, it's female service people who use these honeyed phrases...on older gentlemen. Move south and everyone becomes honey! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-90233625785495320662014-07-11T07:27:19.221-05:002014-07-11T07:27:19.221-05:00Dick:
I wrote a poem on the same subject, which I...Dick:<br /><br />I wrote a poem on the same subject, which I posted on March 24, entitled, "Greetings and Salutations."<br /><br />I had words with a kid at a convenience store awhile back.<br /><br />When I approached the counter to pay, he said, "Hey, what's happenin', dude?" (He had waited on me once or twice before, and presumed, based on that, that he could be familiar with me).<br /><br />I looked at him, and said, "Who do you think you are, calling someone like me, 'dude'?"<br /><br />He was taken aback, and asked me, "What do you want me to call you, 'sir'?"<br /><br />I said, "Yes. Call me sir."<br /><br />MarcMarc Leavitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400805396776788101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-2705771669986068752014-07-10T22:32:26.645-05:002014-07-10T22:32:26.645-05:00Around where I live it seems the servers are far m...Around where I live it seems the servers are far more interested in telling me what to call them ("I'm Jennifer." "I'm Farouk."). In fact, they seldom call me anything at all. Which works for me!jhawk23http://www.morning-fog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30802444.post-72942084710719243372014-07-10T21:21:27.767-05:002014-07-10T21:21:27.767-05:00I occasionally get "young man" -- not qu...I occasionally get "young man" -- not quite sure how to take that. Actually, I kind of like the idea of the salute.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.com